Lori and I have discussed it many times with each other and with other people as well. I'm not exactly sure Lori even understands me completely to this day. The biggest question I get from Lori is "How can you love me and want to see me with another man".
I have tried to explain this to her many times and in general what I try to get through to her is this.
I LOVE seeing her exited, seeing her happy, seeing her passionate and lustful. In the beginning of our relationship, we did have the exitement, passion, lust and great sex. Over the years, it has definitely cooled. I still don't feel like I can get her exited and passionate about making love to me, even though sometimes we do have pretty great sex. I also get turned on by seeing her turned on, and when she's just met a guy she really likes and just getting into kissing him, or making love to him, her excitement level and passion is through the roof sometimes. THIS is what it is all about for me. Seeing her have that passion and excitement.
I don't see how that would make her think I didn't love her. The analogy falls apart in that, nothing happened to me or us. We could still have great sex except, we don't seem to. I think the chemicals that make sex great wear off after a while and you're left with just going through the motions. I'd LOVE to do wild and crazy stuff with my wife, we just never seem to get there. And, with Lori, this lifestyle I think is what keeps her interested in sex, otherwise, I think it she would still have sex with me, but it would be doing her wifely duties and it would be maybe once per week and it would be the typical, OK, lets screw, is it over yet, great. Thanks. (sometimes it's like that with us anyway) That type of sex life isn't overly appealing to me and Lori isn't all that exited in that as well.
Somewhere along the line, we started masturbating together. She'd lie next to me with her vibrator and we'd both do ourselves. During this time, we'd talk about our fantasies and this lifestyle was always the fantasy. (or almost always the fantasy) We decided to stop just talking about it and go do it. We're glad we did!
So, maybe you understand that, - but a big question which still perplexes Lori is, why would I want to be a cuckold. I'm not sure I even want that, and in the actual sense of the word, I already am. She has sex with other men, I know about it and allow it. But the general perception of what a cuckold is goes further. It's like the kinsey scale, you can be mildly cuckold, or you can be full blown cuckold. I'd say I'm a little more than mild, but definitely not full blown.
I have no interest in being degraded, I just love her being so into another guy, so turned on by him that she only wants to have sex with him. We began talking about that and it seems to be the next logical step. In this lifestyle, I think people always look for what's even hotter. For me, her getting so into someone and denying me sex, or not wanting sex with me, for some reason turns me on like crazy! Of course, then I want to have sex with her even more. I'm not looking for her to just go, sorry, not interested in you anymore, I'm looking for more of a teasing situation. I guess that's where the fun is in me, and that she does of course help me cum by getting naked with me, telling me how much she loves fucking her boyfriend and making me do myself.
We HAVE had this situation twice now, both with the same boyfriend, but it didn't last. Each time things get difficult, usually it's me. I don't think she has any problem with not wanting sex with me, but for me, I want to know it's the truth and not her just saying it. The first time, it was totally believable, and I think it was the truth. But we travelled back to our other house, and wound up making love and getting back to normal.
The second time, she was getting all hot and heavy with her boyfriend, we started talking about it again and she admitted she only wanted to have sex with him, BUT, I could tell she wasn't into him as much. He was having some issues with his wife and pulling back, and Lori was geting frustrated with him. She was definitely just saying it to get me excited, which just confused me. The last thig I want is for her to not want sex with me because I just don't turn her on. I want it to happen only because someone turns her on so much that's all she wants.
I'm sure we'll get there agian. We just talked about it two nights ago (while doing ourselves), and she assures me she wants to have that hot passionate affair, one where she gets so into the guy that he's all she wants.
I agreed that I want the same thing for her.
SO, we'll see where it goes. Hopefully soon I'll be writing about how she's so into him (maybe her current boyfriend even) that she stopped wanting it with me.
That would be hot! We shall see.
There are definitely downsides to being in that position, maybe as many as the upsides, but I'll leave that to another post.
-Rich-
Saturday, June 11, 2011
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
Girl on Girl
For the most part, Lori hasn't been interested in other women, BUT there's something about being around women who are flirty, fun, bi-curious and good looking. Over the past few years of meeting wild women, starting with our first wild vacation (to Hedonism) Lori became much more open to kissing or touching a woman. It is definitely all in fun and not any attempt at having something with a woman like she does with her boyfriends.
Not that guys really need that much encouragement to have their woman be as flirty and fun with other women as possible, but I think there are some that might write this off because their wife is straight. They shouldn't, believe me, it's a ton of fun all around and I think your wife will enjoy the flirting once she gets used to it. She actually may really love it and you'll wind up with a LOT more fun than you ever imagined.
Over the past few years, we have had a couple minor encounters, and with each encounter Lori gets much more comfortable being with another woman. Somewhere along the way, Lori also began checking out other women and with some really hot women, there's defintiely a desire in her to play.
Over the past few weeks we've actually both been flirting with a very hot woman at a local club. This woman actually has the same or even a slightly hotter body than Lori. She has a slightly smaller tighter frame, not as nice of an ab section, but the same great ass, great legs, fantastic arms, and nicely sized (unfortunately fake) tits. (She definitely has bigger tits than Lori)
This past Friday night, we wound up meeting up with her for a night out to see a local band. We hoped but didn't expect to bring her home with us. Both Lori and I had talked about it and Lori had mentioned one other time, if she were alone with her, she would have played. Lori was definitely interested in playing with this woman.
The night finally came, we met up for drinks and to our disappointment the band somewhat sucked, but we however made the best of it. We didn't dance much at all at first, and I don't dance that much anyway but Lori's the big dancer. Over the course of the night we both flirted with her, and mentioned taking her home with us multiple times. (I had flat out told her the previous week that we were serious about a 3-som with her, to my surprise, she said "let's go!". Unfortunately we weren't alone and couldn't get away from the people we came with). 1:30 finally rolled around and the bar closed. It didn't seem as if things would happen, Anne and Lori were hanging out talking with the staff as everyone left and no real mention of Anne going home with us. I made a decision that I was going to make this happen. I told Lori and Anne that I was going to leave and Anne would have to drive Lori home. Neither really thought I was serious until I received a text a few minutes later asking if I was out in the parking lot, to which I could happily respond that I was now at home (we live close to the bar). So, Anne and Lori followed.
We got home and made a few drinks, we didn't really need them we were all fairly hammered at that point, but we drank in order to add to the social setting. From there, things are a little fuzzy, we could tell Anne was very open to different lifestyes, though she claimed she had never done anything wild, we didn't quite believe her. The conversation moved onto girl on girl and both Anne and Lori said it excited each of them. That was all I needed, - I moved the two together and told them to kiss and they both happily obliged. From there, shirts came off and Lori moved quickly to sucking Anne's tits. This play lasted a while as the hands started moving down each others pants. I reached down my wife's pants to find she was soaked! Again, far more wet than she gets with me (there is definitely a theme here). Anne noticed it too and commented quite a few times on how wet Lori was. By now, all three of us were naked and we decided to move upstairs to the bedroom.
Lori and Anne played with each other for a bit, and I played with both of them. This is when things went down hill (well for me at least). I noticed I was losing my hard-on. I couldn't believe it - I was incredibly turned on, everything felt fantastic, Anne was incredibly hot, and Lori had started telling me to fuck Anne. This is the first time Lori had ever wanted me to fuck another woman. I tried, but my dick just wasn't cooperating. I knew it had to be the late hour and the myriad of drinks/shots I had throughout the night. I decided to kiss down Anne's body and lick her perfectly hairless pussy. I licked and fingured Anne and within minutes she was cumming. I made Anne cum three times before she rolled over to get me away from her pussy (which I then started kissing and licking her ass). Anne LOVED that as well saying I was incredible.
Lori had reached into the night stand and grabbed her toy and started doing herself while I was licking Anne.
Once Anne had cum I had to bow out, I did have to piss and was still not getting hard, so I ran into the bathroom, which was attached to the bedroom. I peed really quick and opened the door to find Anne sucking on Lori's tits while she fingered her pussy hard with two or three fingers and Lori had her toy on her clit. I just stood and watched in amazement for a few minutes while Anne made Lori cum.
It was an incredible sight. The first time I had seen Lori do anything like that! I'm hoping it's not the last.
After Lori came, she still wante me to fuck Anne and she left us alone in bed. Anne and I kissed and touched for a bit, but it was pretty evident that I wasn't going to get hard. (this was absolutely killing me!) Anne said it was probably partly the booze and partly the fact that this was the first time I was with another woman other than Lori. Anne promised me I would have another chance to fuck her again, but next time I need to be rock hard, and I plan on it!
I'm honestly hoping things go great next time, because I suspect Anne could be the only woman I'm fucking, well, as long as she stays single I guess! (Lori may still be not having sex with anyone other than her boyfriend, but that's a different story).
So I guess the moral of the story is, if you get a chance at that hot threesome - don't get shitfaced getting there! There's nothing more frustrating than having your wife tell you to fuck another woman and not being hard!
Keep it to two drinks and multiple orgasm's!
-rich-
Not that guys really need that much encouragement to have their woman be as flirty and fun with other women as possible, but I think there are some that might write this off because their wife is straight. They shouldn't, believe me, it's a ton of fun all around and I think your wife will enjoy the flirting once she gets used to it. She actually may really love it and you'll wind up with a LOT more fun than you ever imagined.
Over the past few years, we have had a couple minor encounters, and with each encounter Lori gets much more comfortable being with another woman. Somewhere along the way, Lori also began checking out other women and with some really hot women, there's defintiely a desire in her to play.
Over the past few weeks we've actually both been flirting with a very hot woman at a local club. This woman actually has the same or even a slightly hotter body than Lori. She has a slightly smaller tighter frame, not as nice of an ab section, but the same great ass, great legs, fantastic arms, and nicely sized (unfortunately fake) tits. (She definitely has bigger tits than Lori)
This past Friday night, we wound up meeting up with her for a night out to see a local band. We hoped but didn't expect to bring her home with us. Both Lori and I had talked about it and Lori had mentioned one other time, if she were alone with her, she would have played. Lori was definitely interested in playing with this woman.
The night finally came, we met up for drinks and to our disappointment the band somewhat sucked, but we however made the best of it. We didn't dance much at all at first, and I don't dance that much anyway but Lori's the big dancer. Over the course of the night we both flirted with her, and mentioned taking her home with us multiple times. (I had flat out told her the previous week that we were serious about a 3-som with her, to my surprise, she said "let's go!". Unfortunately we weren't alone and couldn't get away from the people we came with). 1:30 finally rolled around and the bar closed. It didn't seem as if things would happen, Anne and Lori were hanging out talking with the staff as everyone left and no real mention of Anne going home with us. I made a decision that I was going to make this happen. I told Lori and Anne that I was going to leave and Anne would have to drive Lori home. Neither really thought I was serious until I received a text a few minutes later asking if I was out in the parking lot, to which I could happily respond that I was now at home (we live close to the bar). So, Anne and Lori followed.
We got home and made a few drinks, we didn't really need them we were all fairly hammered at that point, but we drank in order to add to the social setting. From there, things are a little fuzzy, we could tell Anne was very open to different lifestyes, though she claimed she had never done anything wild, we didn't quite believe her. The conversation moved onto girl on girl and both Anne and Lori said it excited each of them. That was all I needed, - I moved the two together and told them to kiss and they both happily obliged. From there, shirts came off and Lori moved quickly to sucking Anne's tits. This play lasted a while as the hands started moving down each others pants. I reached down my wife's pants to find she was soaked! Again, far more wet than she gets with me (there is definitely a theme here). Anne noticed it too and commented quite a few times on how wet Lori was. By now, all three of us were naked and we decided to move upstairs to the bedroom.
Lori and Anne played with each other for a bit, and I played with both of them. This is when things went down hill (well for me at least). I noticed I was losing my hard-on. I couldn't believe it - I was incredibly turned on, everything felt fantastic, Anne was incredibly hot, and Lori had started telling me to fuck Anne. This is the first time Lori had ever wanted me to fuck another woman. I tried, but my dick just wasn't cooperating. I knew it had to be the late hour and the myriad of drinks/shots I had throughout the night. I decided to kiss down Anne's body and lick her perfectly hairless pussy. I licked and fingured Anne and within minutes she was cumming. I made Anne cum three times before she rolled over to get me away from her pussy (which I then started kissing and licking her ass). Anne LOVED that as well saying I was incredible.
Lori had reached into the night stand and grabbed her toy and started doing herself while I was licking Anne.
Once Anne had cum I had to bow out, I did have to piss and was still not getting hard, so I ran into the bathroom, which was attached to the bedroom. I peed really quick and opened the door to find Anne sucking on Lori's tits while she fingered her pussy hard with two or three fingers and Lori had her toy on her clit. I just stood and watched in amazement for a few minutes while Anne made Lori cum.
It was an incredible sight. The first time I had seen Lori do anything like that! I'm hoping it's not the last.
After Lori came, she still wante me to fuck Anne and she left us alone in bed. Anne and I kissed and touched for a bit, but it was pretty evident that I wasn't going to get hard. (this was absolutely killing me!) Anne said it was probably partly the booze and partly the fact that this was the first time I was with another woman other than Lori. Anne promised me I would have another chance to fuck her again, but next time I need to be rock hard, and I plan on it!
I'm honestly hoping things go great next time, because I suspect Anne could be the only woman I'm fucking, well, as long as she stays single I guess! (Lori may still be not having sex with anyone other than her boyfriend, but that's a different story).
So I guess the moral of the story is, if you get a chance at that hot threesome - don't get shitfaced getting there! There's nothing more frustrating than having your wife tell you to fuck another woman and not being hard!
Keep it to two drinks and multiple orgasm's!
-rich-
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